Dominance is built through visible control - owning the
customer relationship, the brand, the distribution channel.
It's also visibly contestable. Regulators see it.
Competitors see it. Customers see it and resent it. The
moats are real but eroding under all three pressures.
Dependence is built through invisible indispensability -
becoming the layer other firms route their operations
through. CCC in auto insurance. Stripe in payments. Plaid
in financial connectivity. AWS in compute. Customers don't
know you exist. Every firm in your industry depends on you
to function.
Dependence is harder to attack because there's no obvious
customer to liberate. The dependent firms can't easily
leave because their operations are built around you. The
regulator can't easily break you up because you're
infrastructure. The customer doesn't notice. Removing you
would just cause chaos.